Things that don’t matter

Over the past 3 or 4 years, I've been experiencing a strange phenomenon. It's as if any importance I'd attached to certain things, events, and people just... falls away. I've noticed myself filing such things into a mental list that just seemed to pop up out of nowhere, entitled "Things That Don't Matter." I find …

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Begin to dream

From my teens through most of my 30s, my absolute worst recurrent nightmare was that I was pregnant. Even if in my waking life it would have at times been a physical impossibility, the terror at the sense that my life would no longer be "my own" always seemed so real. I had too many …

100+++ days of…

Over the last 6 years or so, I've been doodling a lot. Back when I was a professional bartender, I began posting bar-related doodles on my Twitter account during closing around 3 a.m., usually on the front of an envelope or whatever scrap paper was nearby, inspired by events that had happened during my shift …

Why I didn’t need a wedding to get married

Congratulations! You're engaged! You've just preemptively signed at least 10k to 30k of your hard-saved dollars away (according to the current wedding pricing statistics)! Or, have you? Let's think for a minute about all the thing$ people will say you NeeeEEEEEEEEEEEEeeeed for a wedding: An expensive WHITE "wedding" gown, that you will then afterwards keep …